Forever Friends with Skylar M. Cates

September 11, 2015

forever friends

Hello there, I’m Skylar. I’m the person with the messy house, cute puppy, crazy, funny kids, and scattered coffee mugs. Dreamspinner says to introduce ourselves here, and I think this gives you some idea who I am. I’m treading chaos all the time, but I honestly love my life.

I feel lucky to be here with all of you today. I feel lucky with my family and my friends.

But not always….

Recently a friend hurt my feelings by repeatedly ignoring me and it got me thinking about the nature of friendships. I vented a little on Facebook and was amazed and humbled by how many people offered sympathy and support.

My books very often include a group of friends. As I get older and busy with my family’s needs, it’s harder to have a circle of friends in my life. In college and elsewhere, it was easier. But free time-  once you have a job, partner, and maybe some kids tossed into the equation- is tough to manage.

While my books always have a central romance, I often think the secondary characters are of equal importance. They are the ideal friends. Not in terms of being perfect characters—for they are often deeply flawed—but in terms of being there for each other, no matter what.

Isn’t that what we all crave? Good friends who don’t fade away. Who are there, always and forever?

In Lovers, Losers, and You friendship is of paramount importance. They help each other, protect each other, and remain loyal to each other throughout the good times and bad. From the zany fun of Andrew’s reality show entry to the heartbreak of loss, these guys stick together.

Friendship should be a two-way street and not a dead-end. I wrote that on my Facebook, and I still believe it now.

Just for fun, answer these questions below in a comment, and I will randomly pick two winners by the day’s end.


1. I can’t be friends with somebody who doesn’t like:

A. coffee B. animals C. books D. kids E. wine F. I can be friends with anybody


2. The most important quality in my friend is:

A. Loyalty B. Humor C. Compassion D. Intelligence E. Other quality


3. A good night out with my friends would be a night of:

A. Wine and books

B. The movies and lots of candy

C. A bar and some dancing

D. An evening of fine dining and conversation

E. Something much wilder


4. It is usually possible to remain friends with an ex-lover

A True B False


5. When a friend does this repeatedly, I would end the friendship:

A. Lies to me

B Holds grudges

C Breaks promises

D. Gossips about me

E None of the above. I am forgiving with my friends

F. All of the above. I’m particular about my friends


Thanks for stopping by! I appreciate it! List your answers in a comment to be included in the giveaway.


Prize: A ten dollar DSP gift card (two winners)


Feel free to explain some of your answers and share your stories of friendships. I always love chatting.





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Where to find me: skylar cates

Twitter: @skylarmcates

14 Responses to “Forever Friends with Skylar M. Cates”

  1. Janie says:

    1. Can be friends with anyone…..but people i want to be friends with if that makes sense. Sometimes i am too nice and i do give everyone the benefit of the doubt but quickly realize its not worth my time.

    2. Humour. Love ppl w a sense of humour

    3. A but books and spiced rum

    4. I think B but A works for some ppl

    5. F – i dont think a true friend needs to do any of this

    Thanks for chance Skylar. Looking forward to your new release

  2. Wendy says:


    2.C Compassion is so important. We need to lift each other up not knock each other down.

    3.A definitely books and either wine or craft beer

    4.B IMO, it’s hard to be friends with an ex lover

    5. Tough question. I would say E to forgive and forget but if these things happen often how much heartache do you take before you do F walk away from the friendship?

    Thank you for the giveaway!

  3. Angela says:

    Congrats on the release of Lovers, Losers and You, and a happy release day :) I pre-orderd and just downloaded the book. i look forward in reading it :)

    As for your question’s:

    1. F. I think i can be friends with all sorts of people because that keeps life interesting :)
    2. A. Loyalty
    3. D. An evening of fine dining and conversation
    4. B. for most people (especially when new lovers enter the picture)
    5. F. Because when a friend does those thing repeatedly he or she is not really a friend.

    Thanks for this fun post and the giveaway chance.

  4. Susan says:

    1. C but B was close because I am a cat lady and E was in the running too.
    2. C again, but loyalty and intelligence were close too.
    3. This one was easy: A.
    4. False, as I still have a stalker of a former lover who I tried to stay friends with.
    5. F which explains my small circle of true friends vs. acquaintances.

  5. Antonia says:

    Thanks for your post!
    1. F, or at least none of the other answers are deal breakers!
    2. C but loyalty comes in a close second
    3. Any of the above? Well, probably not anything wilder but the others could all be fun.
    4. Most of the time, false
    5. F. When someone does these things repeatedly, they’re not a true friend

  6. stella says:

    Congrats Skylar on your new release!!! I read Here For you and was amazing. I can’t wait to get my hands on this new one too!

    1. C of course LOL
    2. B My life is a mess pretty much every day so I need someone full of humor
    3. D me and my friends love eat and try new things
    4. False most of the time
    5. “All of the above”

  7. Skylar says:

    Hey all,

    Thanks so much for the comments!

    I had fun making up the little quiz. Wendy, Janie,Susan and Antonia–I had fun reading your answers! It was so interesting to see what people selected.

    Thanks for preordering it, Angela! I hope you enjoy this one.

    Stella, I’m thrilled you loved Here for You! I hope you enjoy the new one too. This is 4 book series, and I’m busy working on the next one (Tomas and Marc).

    I’ll be back later tonight to announce the two winners. Thanks again, everybody!

  8. Deborah H says:

    1-D (because I have kids)
    3-B (I love candy & movies!)

  9. H.B. says:

    Congrats on the new release!

    1. F
    2. B
    3. B
    4. Err… B?
    5. A

  10. Skylar says:

    Thanks again, everybody. I appreciate your support. I am doing other giveaways all week long.

    The winners for today are Wendy and Stella! Congrats!

  11. stella says:

    Thanks!!! I’ll Pm you later :D

  12. MaryMary says:

    1. Hmmm, love animals, wine, books and some coffee – I’ll go with F :)

    2. A, but the rest help :)

    3. They all sound good, but I’ll go with D

    4. Acquaintances, not sure I would call them friends lol So I’ll go with A

    5. Once is understandable since we are all human, but repeatedly, then F!

    Thanks for the contest!!!

  13. Janie says:

    I will tell Wendy to msg you Skylar

  14. wendy says:

    Oh my gosh! Thank you so much! So happy I won!

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